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Sunday, July 18, 2010

Tips on How to Fix a Sexless Marriage

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Lack of sexual intimacy is one of the most common problems in marriages today. Many couples find that they no longer have sex with their spouse as often as they would like, but feel powerless to fix it. The longer the marital dry spell continues, the more insurmountable the problem can feel, until it can become a potentially catastrophic problem in the marriage. Here are some tips on how to fix a sexless marriage, before it is too late and someone does something that you both will regret. An estimated 18% of the married population suffers the problem of reduced sexual intimacy at some point or another, so never feel that you and your spouse are alone in this.

The most important thing that you can do to reignite the sexual desire in your relationship is talk about it with your spouse. If you don't do that, and get to the bottom of what is really causing the lack of sex than none of the other tips on how to fix a sexless marriage are worth even reading. As with any problem, the first step in fixing it is admitting that you have a problem. The difference in this problem is that you must admit to yourself and your spouse that you have a problem, and you both must admit that there is a problem to even begin to make any headway toward fixing it.

Once you have agreed that you would both like to have more sexual intimacy in your marriage, there are a number of things that you can do to start making that happen. Figure out why you are not having sex now, and what you would need to change in order to start. Does one or both of you feel unattractive to the other? If so, one of the easiest tips on how to fix a sexless marriage is to let one another know, through words and actions, that you still find your spouse sexy. Is one or both of you overly stressed? Try alleviating the stress and remember that sex is a great stress reducer!

There are many other tips on how to fix a sexless marriage, but they all basically boil down to one thing: the best way to start having sex again is to simply start having sex again. It sounds too easy, but it is true. The more you have sex with one another, the more your sex drive will be stimulated. The more that your sex drive is stimulated, the more you will want to have sex. The more you want to have sex, well, you get the idea!

1 comment:

Anonymous said...

The advice here of "just do it" is too simplified. Lack of intimacy is usually due to a breakdown in the relationship. This can be hurt feelings, unresolved anger, resentment, etc. In order to get the intimacy back, the underlying issue must first be addressed. You can't bury it and hope it will go away. "Just do it" doesn't work.