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Sunday, July 18, 2010

Want a Boyfriend? Signs He Wants to Be Your Boyfriend - More Than Just Friends

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Sometimes we seek a romantic mate endlessly when he's just right there all along, wanting so badly to change from just a friend to something more. The following signs tell you that this is definitely the case:

1. A special name for you

He's started to call you in a special way, from 'babe', to 'sweetheart' to 'angel', to 'chip-monk' to any other cute special name. You may have already reciprocated this or you may not. If you have not started to call him in a special way yet, and you like the guy, then next time he calls you that sweet special way you can simply return the kindness, casually, with a smile.

2. He calls you more. His calls, texts, emails are much more frequent than before. You seem to talk each other much more often and you both seem to really enjoy it (at least he seems to really enjoy it!). No particular reasons, it could be about anything going on during the day to what's on TV. But the conversations are very pleasant and never boring.

3. Physical gestures. Even if you two touched before, it was just as friends but now the touches seem to be gentler or more significant. For example, all of a sudden he's trying to hold you hands or caress your face. The gestures are sweet and kind.

4. He's extremely interested in your love life.

He's started to be really curious about your love life, if you are seeing someone, if you like someone, what type of guy you like, do you like blondes or dark-haired (and so on), and any similar type of questions. If you are seeing someone, he may say bad things about him, try to put him down, or he may just appear to be upset or moody about it.

10 Tips For a Happy Relationship

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Relationships are hard work-- while some couples make it appear effortless, one will realize that being in a relationship means giving something of yourself and getting something of the other person. This requires a balancing act of give-and-take.

Here are 10 useful tips to ensure a happy and healthy relationship.

1. Get to know each other no matter how long you've been together.

Even if you've passed the 1-year mark, make it a point to get to know each other continuously. Each person is a work in progress, and you can be part of that process by getting to know the person's past, present and hopefully be part of his or her future.

2. Learn to sacrifice and compromise.

A relationship entails some sort of sacrifice and compromise. No matter how alike you are, there will be things that you will not necessarily agree on, and you need to be willing to accept that and meet halfway if need be.

3. Spend time together.

The most effective way to keep your relationship happy and strong is to spend time together. Allocate a day a week to spend with your loved one alone and make it a point to do something together.

4. Find common interests and enjoy them together.

If you are one of those "opposites attract" types of couples, then together, try to discover a new hobby that both of you can pursue. It doesn't matter what it is, as long as it allows you to develop bonding over a common interest.

5. Surprise him or her every now and then.

Every person in a relationship loves a surprise. Occasionally plan one out for your loved and one and he or she will surely return the favor.

6. Settle problems as soon as possible.

Never leave an issue to settle passively. Always do your best to settle an argument before the day ends. If this is not possible, give yourself and your loved one some time to calm down and think about it. But always go back to it and resolve it before moving on to other things before it builds up and becomes a bitter grudge.

7. Listen, listen, listen.

Listening is one of the most important things in the relationship. Learn to listen for verbal and non-verbal messages.

8. Always want the best for the other.

Never try to limit your loved one - if the change is for the best, then encourage him or her to go for it.

9. Constantly let them know you love them.

It doesn't have to be actual "I love you's", but it can come in the form of little things that make them smile.

10. Love yourself too.

Don't forget to leave some love for yourself. After all, you cannot love someone else when you cannot love yourself.

Tips on How to Fix a Sexless Marriage

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Lack of sexual intimacy is one of the most common problems in marriages today. Many couples find that they no longer have sex with their spouse as often as they would like, but feel powerless to fix it. The longer the marital dry spell continues, the more insurmountable the problem can feel, until it can become a potentially catastrophic problem in the marriage. Here are some tips on how to fix a sexless marriage, before it is too late and someone does something that you both will regret. An estimated 18% of the married population suffers the problem of reduced sexual intimacy at some point or another, so never feel that you and your spouse are alone in this.

The most important thing that you can do to reignite the sexual desire in your relationship is talk about it with your spouse. If you don't do that, and get to the bottom of what is really causing the lack of sex than none of the other tips on how to fix a sexless marriage are worth even reading. As with any problem, the first step in fixing it is admitting that you have a problem. The difference in this problem is that you must admit to yourself and your spouse that you have a problem, and you both must admit that there is a problem to even begin to make any headway toward fixing it.

Once you have agreed that you would both like to have more sexual intimacy in your marriage, there are a number of things that you can do to start making that happen. Figure out why you are not having sex now, and what you would need to change in order to start. Does one or both of you feel unattractive to the other? If so, one of the easiest tips on how to fix a sexless marriage is to let one another know, through words and actions, that you still find your spouse sexy. Is one or both of you overly stressed? Try alleviating the stress and remember that sex is a great stress reducer!

There are many other tips on how to fix a sexless marriage, but they all basically boil down to one thing: the best way to start having sex again is to simply start having sex again. It sounds too easy, but it is true. The more you have sex with one another, the more your sex drive will be stimulated. The more that your sex drive is stimulated, the more you will want to have sex. The more you want to have sex, well, you get the idea!

Stop Arguing With Your Spouse

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If you are wondering how to stop arguing with your spouse, and you find that you can hardly share a decent conversation without arguing and yelling at each other - you may want to read this article.

Constant arguing among couples causes alienation within the marriage and destroys the simple joys that can be experienced within the union - sometimes permanently! Unresolved problems can be likened to a wound which never gets better; it just stays there and festers before erupting again. The constant pain and hurt never gets healed, it just keeps showing up every now and then. The reality is that most couples just don't know how to stop hurting each other with their words, and therefore find it impossible to resolve conflicts on their own.

Most married couples tend to fight over insignificant issues, as a result of being unable to agree on any subject. When this starts to occur, couples naturally start thinking in terms of separation and divorce, as it is quite obvious to them that a happy marriage is no longer on the horizon.

In cases where the union has produced children, too often the children become the focus of the arguments. This however, is just a front as the real problem is not with the kids, but rather issues stemming from the frustration emanating from a deteriorating marital relationship.

Life Gets In the Way

It is a known fact; having children, possessing stressful jobs, involvement with various commitments and many other 'legitimate' issues can get in the way. As couples get caught up in their individual lives, they tend to drift apart until they have nothing in common anymore. It is at this juncture that frequent fights and disagreements tend to be manifested.

It is important to identify the little stressors and obvious distracters that ultimately result in estrangement. You also need to know how to reconnect and 'touch base' with your partner on a regular basis.

By applying proven techniques it is possible to rekindle the love, care and passion that used to exist within your relationship. These skills are really incredible as they can be implemented by you successfully even if your spouse is not interested in making things work any longer. These techniques focus on changes within you; once you have altered your approach to your spouse, your spouse will almost immediately change his approach toward you.

If things are going sour within our marriage and all you seem to do together is quarrel -do not worry, it is reversible!