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Sunday, February 13, 2011

How to Know What You Are Feeling Is Love

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You see them for the first time, your heart skips a beat and time stands still, you whole focus and being is directed at that one special person, you could be the last tow people on earth because at that point of time you can see no-one or nothing else. You talk and make a date to see each other again. You are excited by the prospect of seeing them, they are all that you can think about. But, how to know what you are feeling is love and not infatuation?
When you meet someone for the first time, you form a temporary bond based on physical attraction, infatuation and lust. It's where you have an instant chemistry between you rather than caring for that person. If there is a real connection between you then your love will grow as you get to know each other better.
While physical attraction is a big part of love, after all you are not going to form a bond with someone who you don't like, love is much deeper than that. If what you have is love then you have a relationship that is based on caring, commitment, trust, and most important of all friendship. The person that you love is your best friend, they are someone who you can completely open up to, who will support you, and be there for you. You have no secrets from someone who you love, you are a complete open book to each other, which allows you to be yourself with them
Love can be a difficult thing because it means accepting each other for who you really are, and not trying to change them into something that they are not. The person that you fall in love with has their good and their bad points, but that is what makes them who they are. If you try to change them too much then you will lose their individuality, they will not be the same person that you fell in love with, will you still love them then? The same goes for your relationship, don't try to change it into something that it is not, real life is not like the movies, accept your circumstances and with your partner commit to building the best relationship that you can.
How to know what you are feeling is love? If you are genuinely in love then you are in a relationship that you hope will go the full distance. You can see and feel that you have a future together. You probably have similar ideas as to how the relationship can develop and you share a joint vision for the future.
There is something about your partner that makes you feel comfortable with them, you feel safe, happy, and warm inside when they are around. It doesn't matter where you are, what you are doing, you might just be sitting quietly in a room together, but you feel comfortable being with them, it feels right. Being with your partner also makes you feel good about you are, they make you feel appreciated and wanted.
We all have our flaws, habits that probably need changing, or things about ourselves that could do with an overhaul. When what you are feeling is love,you don't see any of the imperfections, or if you do you are able to overlook them because you are so much in love. There will come a point when you will notice all these things, but hopefully by that time you will have come to love the person for who they are, and not who you want them to be.
You know what you are feeling is love, when the deep feelings that you have for your partner are reciprocated and you are able to tell each other just how much you love them. You can talk about nothing for hours at a time or be happy just being in a companionable silence. You become concerned for their well-being and their happiness is your number one priority.
So, how to know what you are feeling is love? You just know. If you are still early in your relationship then you might have the first flickers of love, but it takes time for love to develop and grow. If you have been long enough together to build a close, deep friendship where you are comfortable being with each other and where you have come to know each other, where you can see a future stretching down the years, and when your partner is the first person that you turn to, then, I think that you can say that what you have is love.

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