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Monday, April 11, 2011

10 Ways To Know If It Is Real Love

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You are experiencing true, real love when...
1. You are giving real love.
You have consciously checked your own intentions for getting involved with the person you are in a relationship with. You desire to give to them on a daily basis without having to get something back in return. You have a desire to reflect the image, and express the essential nature of God in your relationship.
2. There is stability in the relationship.
Your feelings, or rather your actions toward one another, do not change in the face of adversity. You still hold one another in high regard and favour, are tender toward each other, and feel loyal in the midst of storms, tests, and trials in life.
3. You are considerate of one another.
You are both unselfish and take the other's feelings into account before you act. You do not deliberately do anything to harm your significant other. And an apology is swiftly given when one (or both) of you unknowingly or accidentally do or say something to hurt the other.
4. Feelings of resentment, jealousy or discontentment, don't exist.
These feelings don't exist between you two or they are quickly checked, addressed and put in order if they do arise. You both understand the destructive consequences of the relationship becoming damaged or ending if you let these feelings fester and go unchecked. You both wisely choose to trust not in people, but in God to bring you through anything that people can do to you. A belief must exist inside each of you that whatever God can do in the life of others, He surely in His omnipotence can do the same thing & more for you.
5. You two are not arrogant toward the other. Neither of you speak or act in a manner that dishonors, disregards, or disrespects each other.
6. You don't remain angry at the one you love.
Flying off the handle at the love of your life on a regular basis (or mistreating them because of your own mishandled emotional state) is not an option if you want the relationship to last. Therefore, you both take the necessary steps and measures to ensure that your strong feelings of displeasure dissipate or are appropriately managed as soon as possible. The feelings of fear (and the cause of your fear) that are the source of your feelings of anger are quickly recognized and addressed in order to protect your relationship. You continually act with power, love and a sound mind toward one another.
7. You don't hold grudges.
You don't hold onto and keep rehashing the past. You don't keep score of how many times you were right and how many times your mate was wrong. You refrain from harboring negative feelings toward the one you love.
8. You don't revel, boast, or celebrate when your significant other is in pain
Now you may think "duh" when you read this, but this is an issue in many relationships because a large number of people are hurting, discontent and worn out in their regular everyday lives. As we know, misery loves company. People tend to take pleasure in the low points of others because they don't want to be in the ditch, valley, or pit all by themselves.
9. You tell each other the truth.
You both faithfully, consistently tell the other the truth. Being honest should be the standard in your relationship. Truth spoken in love will bind you two together, whereas lies which lead to mistrust will eventually break the relationship apart. Honesty will cause you to grow in your relationship with one another and mature in your relationship with God. It is both of your relationships with God, who is love that will hold your relationship together. Remember a threefold cord (composed of you, your significant other, and God) is not easily broken.
10. You always look for the best in each other.
Somehow you see the best in your significant other even when or if others around you see the worst. You see beyond where they are now, to the man or woman they can become. You envision their bright future and destiny, and you encourage, exhort, uplift, and partner with one another to get there!
"Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres. Love never fails." - 1 Corinthians 13:4-8 (New International Version)
"Real love, true love is giving of oneself and one's resources without expecting anything in return.

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