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Sunday, July 31, 2011

Must-Do Secrets to a Happy Marriage

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While love is very important in a marriage sometimes it just isn't enough. Just like any other relationship you have to put some effort in to make your marriage successful.
So to help you on your way, here are absolute must-do secrets to make your marriage a happy marriage:
Be open and honest in your communications with each other and be considerate of your partner's feelings. You might think that these two things are mutually exclusive. They're not. You can be open with your communication and express your feelings honestly while doing it in such a way that is respectful of your partner.

It's also important to let your partner know if they have said or done something to hurt you. If you hold onto negative feelings your partner will be unaware of what they have done to hurt you and may be likely to repeat their actions. Simply coming out and telling your partner why you are upset can help you find a resolution to whatever might be bugging you.

When money concerns come up it is important to discuss the issues so that both of you are aware of what is going on. This way you can work on finding a resolution. Working together to find a resolution will ensure that neither of you feels left out or bearing the stress of worrying about the finances on your own.

Be willing to make sacrifices. This is another secret to a happy marriage. Sometimes the sacrifices may be big, but most often it's the smaller things that really make the difference. Something as simple as preparing a meal that you don't like, but that you know your partner likes, let them know that you care enough to put their happiness first.

If either of you feels as though you are taking more than you share it can lead to resentment and ultimately to anger. Working together gives you an opportunity to work as a team which in turn strengthens your connection.

Yet another secret to a happy marriage is to maintain an intimate and affectionate relationship. Sometimes it's simply about sharing physical closeness. Even small gestures such as a hug or holding hands as you walk gives you the opportunity to reconnect with your partner on a regular basis.

Do something spontaneously. Do not allow yourself to fall into a predictable pattern of behaviour as this can lead to boredom. Being spontaneous at times will prevent boredom and keep your relationship interesting. This might be doing something as simple as placing a note on the table saying "I love you" to planning a trip to a place not visited before.

Understanding that you and your partner won't always be in complete agreement is also critical to a happy marriage. While you may agree on a lot of things it's unrealistic to believe that you will be in sync at all times. Its okay to disagree sometimes as long as you respect each other's feelings and beliefs as you seek resolution. And don't think that one major disagreement means the end of the relationship.

And while making sacrifices is important in a happy marriage, it is also important to do things that are just for you. While it's great to have a lot of common interests it's also essential to have some things that you like to do on your own. Having some separate activities gives you some time away from your partner, gives you an opportunity to explore things on your own, and prevents boredom in the relationship as you reconnect and share what you've been doing.

Finally, remind yourself often why you married your partner. This is one of the most important secrets of a happy marriage. Remembering what it is about your partner that drew you to them originally will ensure that you never forget your love for your partner. So while many things may change throughout the course of your marriage the one thing that will always remain is the reason you fell in love in the first place.
All of these secrets bring a couple closer together and foster a happy marriage. But remember, a happy marriage is not guaranteed no matter how much you love each other. There are so many other variables that will have an affect on your happiness and the ultimate success of your marriage.
And while communicating about problems and concerns is important it's also important to communicate about your aspirations for your future together.
At the heart of all of this is the importance of both of you remaining conscious and vigilant of these aspects if you want to stay happy in your marriage.

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