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Friday, September 2, 2011

Work on a Broken Relationship

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Are you experiencing a broken relationship? If you are, then you know how traumatic it can be. It seems that your world has been turned upside down and nothing seems right. It's hard to sleep. You have no appetite. You don't even want to get out of bed in the morning. And you are in danger of becoming severely depressed! If you're wondering what you can do to save a broken relationship then you have come to the right place.
Do you know that most relationships and marriages can be saved? All you have to do is be willing to put in enough time and effort.
Why is it so hard?
Broken relationships are so tough to get through because when we are in relationship with others we learn to depend on them so much. Other people enrich our lives and make things better. They take away the loneliness. And loneliness "trumps" everything. Even people who are in bad or abusive relationships often will stay in them because of the fear of being alone.
So if you are ready to save your broken relationships, here are a few tips to get you started.
First you must decide if your relationship is worth saving as it is. You might have to do some soul searching on this one. Do you really love the other person? Do they love you? Or are you two just hanging out together, passing time? If the feeling you have for each other is true love then it is worth fighting for.
Next, try to figure out what caused the breakup in the first place. It could be some minor thing that can be easily fixed or something that is more complicated and has to be healed over time. Figure out what it is and you will have solved half of the problem.
Once you know what the root cause is, then you can begin to correct it. Now understand this, the symptoms are not the root cause.
Here's an example: Your mate has stopped talking to you. You don't know why and no matter what you do, he still seems quiet and detached. You have forgotten about the other day when you were tired and he was kidding around with you and you said something to hurt his feelings.
The "not talking to you" is the symptom. The hurt feelings are the root cause. So be sure you discover the root cause and correct it.
Thirdly, you have to understand that great relationships are not built overnight. They take a lot of time and effort and the people who enjoy them have put in that time and effort.
Be consistent. This cannot be overstated. If you are continually showing love and affection for your mate then eventually they will get the message. But you must do it consistently, all the time, even when you don't feel like it and even when they are not returning that love and affection.
If you are trying to save a broken relationship, then following the above advice will go a long way in making it happen.

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