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Sunday, November 20, 2011

Ways to attract a day

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ate yourself! Yes, the first step to attracting a date is to realistically look in the mirror and consider if you were on the other side, would you date that person.
The second step is to identity five things that make you fun, interesting and appealing and write them down. If you have problems writing down five action words, you should already know you need help. The next step is to turn the paper over and write down five things you believe may hinder you from potentially attracting a date. The items on the back side of the paper are what we want to work on.
While I have no idea what you wrote on your paper, I am going to assume that I will cover at least some of the items in the content that follows. At this point, I am implementing a disclaimer to inform you that I do not have all the answers. The knowledge that I am going to share is based on my research. I also want to make clear that this writing is about dating only. We need to practice getting past first tier before we move to the next level.
Dating is a necessity in building a relationship. Dating is a time to communicate interest through discussions that lead to discovery. This should determine if there is a mutual interest. Dating helps you build a relationship before expectations creep in. For this reason, I believe sex too early in the relationship leads to unrealistic assessments and expectations.
We need to focus on the right thing. Generally, women focus on meeting someone to love and men focus on having sex. You have to increase your chance of developing more meaningful relationship centred on quality and also finding your soul mate.
Always look your very best. Whether you are running an errand, going to the market or taking a jog around the corner, make sure your hair is combed, clothes neat and breathe is fresh. Feeling good about you is an external reflector.
Change that Attitude. A good attitude at the very least makes you approachable. If your attitude says "don't even think about it," most people will not. My best advice is to check the attitude at the door.
 Lift the Restrictions. Whether man or woman, too many restrictions are a turn off and also limits the pool of a potential date candidate. Truthfully, too many restrictions are like roadblocks, difficult to get around.  Concentrate on meeting someone who will enhance and enrich your life.
The very first thing I suggested was to look in the mirror. The mirror is best known for helping you make an assessment of yourself. We should be realistic about what we see. Am I conscious of my physical appearance? Do I need to update or refresh my wardrobe? Do I need to visit a professional hairstylist or barber? Is my conversation diverse, uplifting and positive? Is my external beauty a reflection of my positive inner self?

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