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Wednesday, December 7, 2011

Walk Together

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t sounds silly, doesn't it? We should all know how to take a romantic walk. It is just one leg in front of the other. Yet for many of us we have lost the art of taking time together. With our busy lives we have forgotten what it is to build lasting memories, one step at a time. So let's talk about some easy ways you can make your walks together not only more romantic, but also ones that will help build a lifelong bond.
Pitch the cell phone:
Devote some time with little to no distractions. Yep, this means turning off the cell phone. We always think it will be little bother until it interrupts a great conversation. Getting back on track after a disruption is always difficult. So make sure you keep interruptions to a minimum. This walk is about the two of you.
Get to your neutral place:
Make sure that the air is cleared before you go on your walk. A lot of the time we go on walks or drives with irritations in our heart. What a mood killer. So make sure you keep a short account with your spouse. Don't think that a walk by itself is a cure all. Being able to open up, with no defensiveness, and having time to do so, that is the magic of a walk. So talk things out, compromise where you need to, and make sure things are great before you schedule a romantic walk.
Throw out the Complaining:
Remember to leave most complaining at the door. Let's face it; we all love to complain. We complain about the President, the weather, the job, and the traffic. If we have to deal with it, we complain about it. And while this may build a bond around common complaints, it does not build romantic bonds. Keep in mind, this does not mean that you cannot talk about the big things that are going on in the world, but if that is all you talk about, the romance will only go so far. So keep the complaining to a minimum.
Engage your senses:
Make sure to comment on the weather. I know it sounds silly, but a lot what you are doing is building memories. Take in the smell of the leaves, the crispness of the air, or the sun as it warms your skin. Take time to enjoy it with your partner. The more you engage your five senses the more you will remember the walk. So slow down and engage with what is going on around you.
Talk about the big things:
Take some time to wax philosophical. Taking time to talk about the really big things gives a feeling of unlimited possibilities. So talk about the nature of the universe, the mysteries of falling in love, or the wonders of nature. Make sure this is a no judgment zone. No one is right or wrong, it is a place to be open and let your mind expand. If you can be curious openly with your mate, it will engender trust and open the door for further communication.
As far as it depends on you, make it a pleasant experience. Try not to pick on each other. Be open, be honest, and be curious. Let them know that you love them and want to know everything about them, even their craziest thought. This is a time for each of you to know and be known.
Enjoy your time together!

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