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Saturday, August 6, 2011

Last Longer In Bed With These Tips (Mature Minds Only)

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If you are reading this article then you are probably like the majority of men in this world who want to stop premature ejaculation. I can't think of any man who would not like to have the power to last long in sex. Think about it if you had the ability to last longer in bed, long enough to give your woman the most explosive sex. Do you think you would be able to keep that "special" woman because you can satisfy her sexually?
Unfortunately this isn't the case for the majority of men. So Lets Take a Look...
 Tips To Help You Stop Premature Ejaculation
Tip 1: Make Sure To Use the Correct Positions
Believe it or not there are certain positions that put excessive pressure on the head of the penis and cause excessive stimulation which leads to early climax. You need to utilize positions that put the least amount of pressure and stimulation on the head of the penis.
Tip 2: Be Aware Of Your Arousal Level
You must become aware of the stages of arousal that lead to climax. Once you know and understand those levels then you need to be aware of them at all times throughout intercourse. You must be able to recognize when you are just prior to the "point of no return" and then be able to stop, and change positions, kiss and fondle, or whatever you need to do to allow the arousal level to lower.
Tip 3: Your Mind Is In Charge
The bottom line is that your ability to last longer in bed and prevent premature ejaculation is ultimately going to be controlled by your thoughts during intercourse. If you are thinking about your prior "unsatisfying" sexual encounters then the chances are you will experience one this time as well.
Focus on counting backwards from 100. Crazy as it sounds; imagine you are writing the numbers backwards on a chalk board. This will assist you in "not" thinking about negative thoughts. Thinking of other things will help you to last longer in bed.
Tip 4: Control Your Breathing
Too many times men will get caught up in the pleasure and forget to breathe properly. They start to breathe in a quicker pattern and this leads to insufficient oxygen going to the body's muscles which causes muscles to fatigue and this encourages premature ejaculation as a defence mechanism of the human body.
You must learn to control your breathing and take deep breathes, breathing in through the nose and out through the mouth. Hold the air in your lungs for a count before exhaling. This will assist in supplying the muscles with much more oxygen, which will allow the muscles to perform longer. Thus, your sexual stamina will last longer as well.
Natural Remedies Are Best
Without a doubt using natural remedies like the above are the best methods to use if you want to stop premature ejaculation.

Friday, August 5, 2011

How Does Argument Affect Our Relationship

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So often, in life, it is easier to find the "faults" - or rather our projection of faults - in someone than it is to find the positive. Especially, if we are angry, upset, or arguing with this person. Yet, to argue is a choice, is it not? Can you at any point in time shift the conversation - if you really wanted? That is to say, if you weren't having so much fun getting pissed off and having your blood boil. Of course, that alone can cause a variety of health problems - so, is it really worth it?
Some would argue that it is because they enjoy it and need to be right - or so they think. Yet, relationships like this are only going to end in the dumpster! Is that really where you want your relationship to go?
"But if we don't address the issues nothing will ever get resolved and then what?"
Somehow, I knew you were going to ask that question! Truth be told, arguing doesn't resolve - it complicates and more often than not diverts to other issues and away from the original one, right? Suddenly, you are arguing about something that happened last week, a month, or even a year ago and how is that resolving the present moment?
The first thing we must realize is ask ourselves;
"Why do I feel this way?"
"Where does my position in this situation originate?"
"How did I come to having these beliefs?"
"What are the good contributions, through our relationship, has this person made?
"What is it that I admire about this person?"
Now, you are armed with the means by which you can address the issues - all issues originate where? Did you notice by the types of questions above we were performing a self analysis?
Here is what happens in relationships - two people with different life experiences come together either as friends or lovers and when those belief systems collide - you get an argument. While you may have had similar experiences even you both through your human conditioning were taught different ways of handling them - neither way is incorrect.
At some point, however, you must ask yourself those above questions and then ask;
"Does this belief serve my highest good and intention anymore?"
If not, we must learn to let it go and create new beliefs and ways to handle situations.
You see, part of our Human Conditioning is to mimic those around us - so, odds are if you thought long and hard and were truthful with yourself you could find out exactly where you picked up beliefs, behaviours, and even reactions (how we handle things).
 You may say “it sounds like I'm at fault for everything. Am I, right?"
Listen, first we need to do away with right and wrong - instead, think of it as what I have done and what I will / can do. Now, the biggest part of this journey owns the fact that you are creating your reality which means accepting responsibility for your life experiences and not trying to find fault or pass blame. An experience is something you have created to learn a valuable lesson and ascend into higher consciousness - whether you ascend or not depends on your response!
When arguing, for example, we typically are lashing out about something that is really bothering us - but, we don't often question why it's bothering us. Instead, we assume that someone else is to blame and we go into attack mode. The person we are attacking has a few options and choices on how to respond to this attack.
1. They could attack back - insult to injury
2. They could defend themselves - causing the person to attack more escalating the argument
3. They could listen - by allowing the person who is attacking to vent
4. They could state positive things about their attacker - it's kind of hard to be angry with someone if they love you through it.
The last two are key responses to situations - could you see how the argument might shift?
A majority of arguments come from "feelings" which are related to their human conditioning so we must be mindful of that as well - it will help us make the right choices when responding. So, it's fair to say that an emotional need isn't being met - or at least that is the feeling of your attacker - and by listening you will get clues as to real issue and what need isn't being met.
However, if you focus on the things that you love about someone instead of the "differences" then you WIN. It's not our job to point out faults in a person - remember, the finger is always pointing inward meaning we all have one or the other.  Instead of arguing it’s better to discuss and agree. If you don't like an aspect of a person, show and understanding and love, by that they will be putting every effort to please you by adjusting or may be change completely. You can also advise since it's for the good of both of you. You are now one so what affects you affects your partner too.  Understand the "faults"... Love the person... Love the Moments and ultimately love yourself.
This is how we grow spiritually and become a better human being.

Thursday, August 4, 2011

You Can Fix Your Relationship

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Every relationship has its ups and downs, its rough periods. Even in the best of circumstances, there are difficult times. It is natural so don't beat yourself up if you're relationship doesn't seem like a perfect romance. The fact is that people change, circumstances change, emotions change...everything changes!
Over time, the natural ebb and flow of everyday life places incredible pressure on a relationship.
Almost unnoticed at first, you begin to think thoughts that had once been unthinkable. "I love him, but I'm not in love with him. Not anymore." "I'm not attracted to her, not like I was in the beginning." "Maybe if we separated for awhile..." The skies can darken in a hurry, and this can be a very scary time. Suddenly, the security of the relationship (one of the major advantages of long-term commitment) has vanished, and we're left with circular questions and a growing field of doubt.
Take heart, if you're in the midst of one of these dark times, then there is hope. Our thoughts and beliefs determine how we define our relationships, and the sunrise may be only a small shift away. If you and your partner survive these darkest of times, you may find your couple emerges with a stronger, more trusting relationship than you ever imagined possible. You've entered the next level of intimacy and commitment. The following tips may help you make it to your goal:
Clarify your expectations. Couples rarely take time to discuss how to handle the little things in life. What does romance mean to each of you? How will the finances be managed? How will you raise your children? What about religion? How do you feel and understand love? What hurts you? How will arguments be resolved? How will decisions be made? What do you need from your spouse, what does your spouse need from you? As tedious as it might sound, most of us probably never even verbalize these things for ourselves, much less our partners. So we go through our relationships, blindly feeling for the right way to love our significant other. After you take the time to answer these questions honestly, you'll have the beginnings of a map which, in time, will lead to a deeper intimacy, a more loving relationship, and better sex.
Fight fairly. Life and love is complex, and disagreements will come your way. Deal with them as they come, slowly rather than quickly. Leave the past in the past, and handle the current disagreement. Do NOT bring up the hurts and disappointments from the history of your relationship. Those are different matters, and if they still need to be resolved, it's best to bring them up on their own, not in the midst of a separate argument. Stay focused on the current issue and keeps the personal attacks to you. If you're arguing, it's more likely that the discussion will be civil and calm if you're close to one another and can reach out to make contact every so often. Studies show that physical touch will help keep the temperature down and your relationship intact.
Face the problems that you have. Avoiding, neglecting, and hiding from reality will change nothing. In fact, it will often complicate the problem. If you're having problems with your finances, admit it, bring it out in the open. Once it's on the table, it will be much less disturbing and more tangible so that you may better deal with it.
Honesty still is the best policy. Looking at you is probably the hardest part of the process because it's so easy to blame some external entity for our problems. Take a good look in the mirror. Check your behaviour-how you communicate, treat your spouse, or self-destructive tendencies-is undermining your relationship, taking responsibility for it is the first step to moving forward and rejuvenating your couple.
Be proactive. If you're waiting for your partner to take action before you begin, chances are you'll be waiting for a long time, and all the while, you're relationship will only spoil further. Take the initiative. Set the example and change your behaviours. Soon enough, your partner's behaviours will change in response.
Get to work rebuilding compatibility. Time unveils the differences between couples, especially when your relationship is in jeopardy. I know it can be tough when things look so grim, but seek out the common interests. Look for the good things, and, with enough time, they are sure to multiply. Back in the height of your relationship, what did you and your partner enjoy doing together? Going to the beach, the movies? Walking together by the roadside?
It's always a great exercise to take a stroll down memory lane. Think back to the first moments of your relationship. What was it that first attracted you to your partner? What made you fell in love with him or her? Think back to these moments and get inside of them. See what you saw, hear what you heard, and feel what you felt. It's possible to rekindle those feelings, to bring them into your troubled relationship.
Laugher is the best medicine for most serious situations so it's important that you keep your sense of humour. If your relationship is in trouble, being angry and brooding will only make things worse. Laugh out loud as if you were a kid, unconcerned and confident. Things can get better and the more optimistic you are the better.
Take a deep breath. I know that things look grim now, but trust that this is a natural part of the relationship cycle.  Couples can make it through this moment of upheaval and emerge on the other side, a stronger, more confident partnership.

Wednesday, August 3, 2011

Your Friend, Lover, Neither or Both?

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There are many different types of relationships between couples. But the ultimate relationship is based on their passionate and deeply rooted love for each other. Then as a bonus to this they often become best friends as well. Ideally for the perfect relationship it takes the dual combination of a friend and lover. However a loving relationship can function quite well without the couple being best friends. If the relationship is more based on being best friends than lovers, then this can be an issue.
Any couple should always take the time to assess the relationship along the way. Often many relationships fail because of the lack of doing this. This is when the partnership starts to be taken for granted and all of a sudden one day each of the couple look back and say when did we spray apart? This is when the friendship relationship can sneak in and the passionate love relationship ends. By rekindling this passionate love on a regular basis it’s like house- cleaning your heart. It gets rid of all the clutter that is standing in the way of your relationship, and allows you to once again focus on the reasons why you fell in love with your partner in the first place. It is so common for many couples to refer to their spouse as their best friend. This is wonderful; however it needs the foundation and the deep rooted love in order to be a good relationship.
It really is an extra blessing when your partner is also your friend.
So the bottom line comes down to ideally you want to strive in your relationship to have your partner as your deep rooted lover and your best friend. If both are not possible, then focusing on the loving relationship will be the priority. If neither is possible then you may very well be in your relationship simply because it is easier than trying to start all over again or simply based on pity and compassion for the individual that you are with. None of these circumstances make for a great way of living and have to be addressed.

Tuesday, August 2, 2011

Do You Have Something In Common?

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You know that person that first caught your eye and they were so attractive you had to be with them. Only to discover later looks is not what can keep a relationship thriving and lucrative. What really builds relationships would be to have something in common. Something you two can share together; something that will bring lasting memories to your relationship.
Being able to do things together that you both may enjoy; for example you may like to explore and your very attractive person likes the indoors only; you've got a problem. That connection bond is made stronger whenever you two embark on ventures together and laugh and therefore are able later to talk about it and laugh more.
If one likes the wilder lifestyle and the other is much more comfortable being conservative, eventually what you have is one or the other building closer bonds with ones outside the relationship that will enjoy doing things they have in common with, rather than with the person they ought to be bonding with.
Ever wondered how there are those couples you never see together because both are never home. One is one place and the other is somewhere else. It's simply because they never had anything in common so following the honeymoon the exterior attraction has ended and everyone sort of enters that comfortable skin again, everyone returns to the original person and that original person didn't like or do the types of things their mate was interested in, to begin with.
Are looks so blinding that you simply forget to evaluate how compatible the two of you are? However this is not the end or it doesn't need to be the end of the relationship. At minimum you realize you are drawn to one another, that is a start. The next thing you must do is look for a common ground. If this means finding a nice diner each week to visit simply to enjoy a laugh together; then take the risk on one another, stop saying no, thanks, I am not interested in doing that; check it out.
One may like camping the other doesn't, so rent a cabin to be considerate and show your mate the fun they could have. It may even result in the next camping trip with a tent, you won't know until you give it a try. Always remember with all relationships it is going to involve giving and taking. One may like dancing and the other doesn't. So be considerate, you may decide to watch them dance for you. Give your mate your full attention and you never know they may begin to enjoy this particular scene.
Help one another to see you both may have a common ground that you never explored before. Lasting successful relationships will have to bond with one another not with and should avoid bonding instead with other people. Find something totally new that maybe neither of you has tried. By doing this you are able to explore new heights together.
Think of inventive new methods to have some fun together. The flame only goes out when the two of you blow it out. You may have begun with nothing in common; nevertheless, you can create new likes by trying new ventures together. Eventually the two of you will be able to sit and laugh about your brand-new life experiences only the two of you share.

Monday, August 1, 2011

Make Him Love You

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So you ask yourself the questions every other woman on earth asks - that of "how to make him love me" but then you just cannot seem to find the answers that can help you. Really, having a partner is not as simple as it may seem. Too many times, hearts get broken, relationships fail; people go.
For these, it becomes essential to find the most efficient ways by which you will know how to make your partner love you with the kind of love that lasts. But then again, keep in mind that finding the ultimate solutions to your problem of "how to make him love me" is not an easy task to pull off. That is why you will make sure you pin down the tips that could be truly useful for you, make it a point that you implement them right away. Below are some helpful tips you may find useful as far as improving your relationship with your partner is concerned. That way, you can have the man you love chasing you like crazy anywhere you go.
Tip 1:
Set Up A Romantic Dinner With Your Husband
Make sure to set up a romantic dinner with your spouse. This has been an old technique used by women to make husbands feel special. Although it may be an old approach you can use to address your concern about "how to make him love me", you will be surprised at how such old strategy can work so well.
Tip 2:
Do Something Special For The Man You Love
Do the things he loves. Cook for him. Treat him to a nice restaurant where they serve his most favourite cuisines. Lay him on the bed and let him relax while you get his body massaged. But then, take note that it is not only by spending a lot of money can you successfully do something special for your man. Watching a movie with him or perhaps simply lying down together, cuddling with each other as you both read each of your books is more than enough to make your husband feel special already.
Take heed of all these two tips and you will be surprised how you will not need to ask the same question you have asked yourself for many years now - that of "how to make him love me".
What If, no matter what your love life is like now - even if there's no man at all, or the man you have is pulling away and you feel alone, scared and angry - you could change everything, practically overnight?
You can! And all it will take is a few simple shifts in your words and body language to connect to a man where it counts... through his heart.

Sunday, July 31, 2011

Must-Do Secrets to a Happy Marriage

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While love is very important in a marriage sometimes it just isn't enough. Just like any other relationship you have to put some effort in to make your marriage successful.
So to help you on your way, here are absolute must-do secrets to make your marriage a happy marriage:
Be open and honest in your communications with each other and be considerate of your partner's feelings. You might think that these two things are mutually exclusive. They're not. You can be open with your communication and express your feelings honestly while doing it in such a way that is respectful of your partner.

It's also important to let your partner know if they have said or done something to hurt you. If you hold onto negative feelings your partner will be unaware of what they have done to hurt you and may be likely to repeat their actions. Simply coming out and telling your partner why you are upset can help you find a resolution to whatever might be bugging you.

When money concerns come up it is important to discuss the issues so that both of you are aware of what is going on. This way you can work on finding a resolution. Working together to find a resolution will ensure that neither of you feels left out or bearing the stress of worrying about the finances on your own.

Be willing to make sacrifices. This is another secret to a happy marriage. Sometimes the sacrifices may be big, but most often it's the smaller things that really make the difference. Something as simple as preparing a meal that you don't like, but that you know your partner likes, let them know that you care enough to put their happiness first.

If either of you feels as though you are taking more than you share it can lead to resentment and ultimately to anger. Working together gives you an opportunity to work as a team which in turn strengthens your connection.

Yet another secret to a happy marriage is to maintain an intimate and affectionate relationship. Sometimes it's simply about sharing physical closeness. Even small gestures such as a hug or holding hands as you walk gives you the opportunity to reconnect with your partner on a regular basis.

Do something spontaneously. Do not allow yourself to fall into a predictable pattern of behaviour as this can lead to boredom. Being spontaneous at times will prevent boredom and keep your relationship interesting. This might be doing something as simple as placing a note on the table saying "I love you" to planning a trip to a place not visited before.

Understanding that you and your partner won't always be in complete agreement is also critical to a happy marriage. While you may agree on a lot of things it's unrealistic to believe that you will be in sync at all times. Its okay to disagree sometimes as long as you respect each other's feelings and beliefs as you seek resolution. And don't think that one major disagreement means the end of the relationship.

And while making sacrifices is important in a happy marriage, it is also important to do things that are just for you. While it's great to have a lot of common interests it's also essential to have some things that you like to do on your own. Having some separate activities gives you some time away from your partner, gives you an opportunity to explore things on your own, and prevents boredom in the relationship as you reconnect and share what you've been doing.

Finally, remind yourself often why you married your partner. This is one of the most important secrets of a happy marriage. Remembering what it is about your partner that drew you to them originally will ensure that you never forget your love for your partner. So while many things may change throughout the course of your marriage the one thing that will always remain is the reason you fell in love in the first place.
All of these secrets bring a couple closer together and foster a happy marriage. But remember, a happy marriage is not guaranteed no matter how much you love each other. There are so many other variables that will have an affect on your happiness and the ultimate success of your marriage.
And while communicating about problems and concerns is important it's also important to communicate about your aspirations for your future together.
At the heart of all of this is the importance of both of you remaining conscious and vigilant of these aspects if you want to stay happy in your marriage.