Love is one of the most mysterious of human emotions. As much as we know about the science behind what makes someone fall in love, it is in the little details that seem to make all of the difference that we still have a hard time grasping at. You can take a look at several couples and pick out the ones that you assume will stay together, and come back at a later date and find out that you were completely wrong. You may say, love is a funny thing, but it is something that we all need and crave.
Attraction can come and go, but when it comes to maintaining long term relationships, there has to be love there, or else it will not stand the test of time. So, in the context of maintaining relationships, what does love have to do with it?
Anyone that has had to endure a painful relationship or has had to deal with the ending of one knows that it can hurt. However, the opposite is also true. When everything is going good, it can make you feel like you are on top of the world.
Love does not just happen though.
If it were that easy, no one would ever have to deal with the pain of being lonely or the feeling of despair when their love life is a mess. YOU have to make it happen. You have to be the catalyst to set things in motion. If you just sit back and hope that it somehow comes to pass, you can end up waiting a VERY long time.
How can you be a catalyst for love?
By being just as open to giving it out as you are in receiving it. The problem that a lot of people have when it comes to romantic love is that they are very selfish. They are looking for someone to love them, and for someone to make them feel a certain way. The more selfless that you can be.... the more likely it is that you will actually find what you seek and attract love into your life.
If you are seeking to find someone to feel that way about you, then you must be just as open to feeling that way about them. And anything that you would want them to do for you, you have to be willing and able to do it for them.
Love has everything to do with it, but YOU have to be the catalyst that puts the wheels in motion.