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Monday, January 9, 2012

Pleasure Not Pain (Mature Minds Only)

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ex should be a very sweet, enjoyable experience. It is thus sad, depressing and disheartening when it becomes painful for someone to have sexual intercourse. Pain during sex especially for married women means they are unwilling to have sex with their husbands. If the husbands do not understand the situation, they may interpret it as blatant refusal of their wives to give them "the cookie" and thus go in search of it elsewhere thus extra-marital affairs.
Pain during sex, also referred to as dyspareunia, is not uncommon especially to women. Primary pain is pain that has been there throughout a person's sexual life while secondary pain is that which comes after a pain-free period. Pain may also be on entry, during intercourse or after intercourse. It can also occur with some partners, some form of stimulation and in some positions and not others.
Just as there are different types of such pain, there are also different causes, many of which fortunately are not very serious and can be treated. Pain that occurs on entry may be caused if lubrication is not enough; if a woman is not fully aroused sexually, dryness in menopause or rape situations. This can be remedied by using water-based lubricants applied liberally on the vagina. Other causes of pain on entry include infection in the vagina especially thrush, herpes blisters or infected genital warts, injury on the vagina (caused during sexual assault or episiotomy stitches that are not properly healed), an unusually large penis, inflammation of the vulva, a forgotten tampon, bruising on the clitoris from too much friction, hypersensitivity of the vagina and some types of cancer.
The common causes of deep-thrust pain include any inflammation in the pelvic region caused by infection, if the man's penis, during thrust, hits a tender or infected part of the cervix, any tenderness in or near the womb, ovarian cysts, fibroids or ectopic pregnancies.
Another common cause of pain is vaginismus which is both an emotional and physical pain. It is described as spasms that occur in the muscles of the vagina, causing contraction hence making penetration virtually impossible. This can be caused by infection but also by the fear of getting hurt, the fear of pain. Previous painful experiences like rape and childhood sexual abuse, infections, unease with partner may all contribute to vaginismus.
Is pain during sex only in women? No. Men too experience pain caused by skin disorders on the penis, infections such as thrush, Chlamydia, a tear in the foreskin, failure to ejaculate after sexual arousal. For the uncircumcised, the foreskin could also be too tight that pushing it off during penetration becomes painful. An improperly inserted IUD in the woman may cause the man pain as may an improper stitch after childbirth. Male disorder that causes the bending of the penis also causes pain.
Whatever the cause or symptom of the pain, seek professional medical help. It is advisable that when one partner experiences pain during sex, they should stop until the cause and remedy is identified. Penetration is not the only way to get sexual gratification if one really cares about their partner. May be kissing and gentle caress can help for the meantime.

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