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Saturday, March 17, 2012

Restoring Trust in Your Marriage

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nce trust in a relationship has been broken, it's really difficult to restore. However, trust can slowly be rebuilt in a relationship, as long as you follow the advice below. It's important to know that rebuilding trust really means starting over starting small. Proving that you can be trusted again will take a long time, and requires patience, understanding, and consideration.
The first step in rebuilding trust in a relationship is to approach your partner and admit to all you did wrong. Whether you cheated on him or her, were caught lying, or any other deception, the first step to rebuilding trust is to acknowledge the pain that's been caused. You can't move forward without completing this step.
Afterwards, a lot of patience is necessary. Your partner will heal at his or her own pace, and the worst thing you can do is to rush it. It will definitely take a long time, and while she or he is healing, it's important that you keep all your promises, even the small ones (like being home in time for dinner, etc.). Even small transgressions will seem really big during this part of the healing process, so it's important to do your best and do everything you promise. It's also important to remember that your partner may be suspicious all the time, especially at first. Don't get upset - it's understandable and it will get better as time goes on.
You can also demonstrate that you are trustworthy by opening up to your spouse - try to be more open about your life and your moment to moment activities. It may help to show past text messages, emails, and other items that prove you have nothing to hide. You're going to have to answer a lot of questions in order to move forward - be prepared and try to be as open as possible.
Remember that your partner must also be willing to move forward and to get past this, or at least make an honest attempt to do that. Don't confuse forgiveness with forgetting, but at least the effort to move on must be present. Remember - this is like starting from the beginning again for both of you - be extra sensitive to that.
Once you get to the point where you can go out again, try to plan a nice, romantic evening like you had when you first started dating. Share a new experience together - this is one of the best ways for both of you to have fun and move on.

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