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Sunday, April 29, 2012

Find Out How to Attract a Good Man

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he old saying "a good man is hard to find" might feel true, even if it's not. There are plenty of good men in the world who would enjoy being in a committed relationship. In fact, more men than you realize would prefer being in a relationship than not. If you get hung up on finding the perfect man or only believe there is "one man" and "one man only" out there for you, you might be surprised to learn that there are several men with whom you will find yourself compatible.

Love Yourself First
The first thing you can do to attract a good man is to start loving yourself first. Deal with your self-acceptance and love issues up front. If you had bad relationships with your parents, or an ex, you might want to consider finding a way to resolve these issues. When you love and accept yourself fully (no, we're not talking about being selfish), you can't help but radiate confidence--which everyone finds attractive.

Another problem with not loving yourself results in attracting the WRONG kind of man. If you grew up with abuse in any way shape or form, if you haven't resolved these personal experiences and come to terms with them, you'll have a behind-the-scenes attraction going on for the wrong kind of man. The greater part of you knows exactly what you need to grow--and when you avoid facing long-suppressed negative emotions resulting from a troubled childhood--you will draw negative people and circumstances into your life to help you move past these issues. You'll keep having experiences that will allow you to play these emotions out until they are gone from you. That includes attracting abusive men into your life.

Deal With Your Past
Find a way to deal with your past and make amends with it if you want to attract the right kind of man into your life. Secondly, quit looking in bars for "good men." This is not the place to look for men. You might find one in there on occasion, but the really good men are usually too busy to go out to the bar unless he is going out with a group of friends. You'll more than likely find a good man by simply following through with your own interests and hobbies.

Follow Your Passions
Pursue your own passions. Become self-fulfilled and never make another person responsible for your happiness. Making someone else the center of your life is demanding and suffocating. Find out what you are interested in and what you enjoy and go after these wholeheartedly. When you are pursuing the things that make you the happiest, you are "attractive" to the kind of man that you want.

Quit Looking for Perfection
Quit looking for perfection. Are you perfect? Then why are you looking for it in a man? If you lock yourself into a "certain" kind of man with a specific look and income level, you may not find the kind of man you truly seek. Maybe the right man is a tad shorter than you, or maybe he forgets to tuck in his shirt. Maybe he's got a lopsided grin or more than a few freckles. It's often the faults in our loved ones that make us love them more, not the other way around.

If you're looking for a guy who has the looks of George Clooney or Brad Pitt, do you look like Angelina Jolie, or like any one of the beautiful models that Clooney dates? More than likely not. Looks fade with time and are only skin deep. Go for the man, who has the heart of gold, it's worth more than 100 men that look like Brad Pitt.

Do you feel as if you always attract the "wrong" kind of man? There is a reason for this and it's often hidden deep inside. Decide to move past dating and move onto a committed relationship

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