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Wednesday, May 2, 2012

Why Do Men Pull Away?

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It can be very frustrating when you notice that your man is slowly distancing himself from the relationship or he simply acts like he doesn't care anymore. Indeed the relationship may be headed for the rocks if you notice that your man appears uninterested. However, instead of arguing about it and heaping all the blame on him, you should ask yourself, "What am I doing that is pushing him away"? The answer to this question could salvage your relationship and help you get your man back on track.

A man may totally be into you and even worship the ground you walk on but this doesn't mean that he doesn't need his personal space. It's a common fear to think that your man will fool around when he is out there, but suffocating him will only make things worse, and stir up the urge to fool around even more. Relationships are about trust and you should learn to trust your man and let him enjoy himself with his friends. Jealously and possessiveness is mainly a sign of insecurity and lack of confidence and these qualities really turn men off. It's healthy to let your man enjoy some personal space; it doesn't hurt the relationship in any way.

An unrealistic expectation is another factor that makes men give up on the relationship and literally walk away. There is no harm in wanting a hardworking man but not every man can afford to take you shopping every week or buy you a posh car. Women are fond of complaining and whining about what their man is not doing for them. It doesn't hurt to count the blessings that you already have and work hard towards achieving what you don't have. For starters, you have a man by your side, and he comes home to you every day and protects you, how many women can attest to the same?

Communication is an important ingredient in every relationship, however, women expect men to read their minds and find out what the problem is. If you want your relationship to work you will have to come to terms with the fact that men are not mind readers, in fact, they are clueless most times. Using gestures, body language and facial expressions will not work and you'll only create a bigger rift between you and your man. Someday he is bound to get tired with all the non-verbal communications and simply decide to pull away. As a woman learn to say what you mean and mean what you say, this will make the relationship much smoother.

Last but definitely not the least is sex. Men are sexual beings; it's just how they are wired. Women have a habit of withholding sex when they are annoyed about something. Sex should not be used as a weapon and making the bed cold could cost you your marriage or relationship. Strive to resolve all your differences, instead of holding deep resentment which affects the intimacy in the relationship. There are numerous other reasons that would drive a man away, it is essential to do some soul searching and find out if you are the reason why he is pulling away.

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