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Wednesday, June 27, 2012

Men’s Withdrawment

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One of the most frustrating factors of a romantic relationship with a man is trying to figure out why he behaves in sometimes confusing ways. Why men withdraw from romantic relationships has been a source of frustration for women throughout history. If you are currently in a relationship and you want to get a man to marry you, there are some things about which you should be aware. Stop asking yourself why he won't commit and start discovering the reasons he wants to pull away, the feelings he is experiencing in his mind and heart. When a man distances himself from you, he is doing it for what he thinks are pretty good reasons. Unless you're an expert on relationships, you're going to have a tough time figuring out why he does these things.

Why Won't He Commit?
Whether a man realizes it or not, in his mind he sees himself as a hero figure on a mission or quest. The explanation for this is long and a bit complex so for the sake of brevity, let's just say that nature, society and upbringing are likely the reasons he sees himself in this way. It doesn't matter why he's this way. It does matter that you see him in this way. If you can understand this simple principle, you are on your way to unlocking the secrets that make men behave the way they do. Sometimes he doesn't even know why he won't commit. He just knows that something doesn't feel right in your relationship.

Signs He's Pulling Away From You
This feeling he experiences is one of the first signs that he may be pulling away from you. It's a relatively easy thing to spot. As an example, imagine that you're used to hearing from your man at some point during your day - each and every day. So one day he just doesn't call you. You forget about it until it happens again a few days later. Maybe you don't hear from him for days after a particularly great date or evening out. Is he losing interest in you? Maybe not. Is he pulling away? It is possible and this is one of the signs he is doing just that. Is it your fault? Most likely he is just feeling a bit overwhelmed with feelings he may not be sure about.

At this point, your man is trying to deal with some pretty big issues. You see, men are not typically wired to experience emotion. Society also demands that a man stuff his feelings and not deal with them, especially new or previously un-experienced feelings. After all, he has never felt this way about any woman before now. His mode of dealing with this is to react by getting away from the thing that is causing the discomfort - it is indeed the most logical thing to do. He is not trying to hurt you; he's just trying to figure out how he's going to handle it. The last thing he needs is the source of the pressure putting more pressure on him. That is only going to push him away further.

Realize That It's Not Your Fault
If you know why men react in this manner, then you also know that you are not at fault here. Sure, you may have beat yourself up and spent weeks trying to figure out what you did or said wrong. Stop wasting your time and stop blaming yourself - it really isn't your fault. Men simply think differently than women. It is for this reason that women tend to get confused when they think their special guy begins to pull away from a relationship. In his mind, he is responding correctly to what he perceives to be a threat or some emotion that he is not accustomed to feeling. He may even be a bit scared and so his "fight or flight" mode kicks in - and he runs. This is all in his own mind and you are not to blame.

What you may be blamed for is not responding in the right way when your man begins to act in this way. The reason women fail to understand why men withdraw is because they do not understand what is going on in the mind and heart of their man. Those women who are successful at getting a man to marry them understand these principles. If you want your guy to propose to you, then take some action. Get the right information from experts on a male behaviour in a relationship.

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