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Friday, October 26, 2012

Advice on How to Get Over a Broken Relationship

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A broken relationship is not easy to get over. A simple fall out with a friend or acquaintance, can give you a cold feeling. When that break up is between you and your lover, or someone you were close to, your mind and body feel as if you have been run over by a bus. Your life feels as if it has been derailed. 

This feeling of having been cut adrift is extremely uncomfortable, unsettling and confidence squashing. No matter how secure a person you are, when a relationship breaks down you are affected in a huge way. Your emotions and equilibrium inevitably become greatly impacted, and not in a nice way. 

For some people the territory might be strange. For others a 
broken relationship can trigger a state of dej√† vu. Past experience of broken relationships does not however make one's reactions and responses any better. It can in fact simply make matters a whole lot worse. 

In many ways it is important to take a step back and logically assess what went wrong. This can be difficult to do when you are in a state of emotional turmoil, as your emotions tend to derail your ability 
to apply logic. 

Some people repeatedly feel defeated in the game of love as they would see themselves blame worthy where as others hold the other party responsible.
Relationship is about two people, apportioning blame one sided is not appropriate.

You feel guilty when you are cut up in blame and this emotion could be devastating. You do need to know what went wrong in a relationship so as to ensure you don't end up in a similar situation again in the future. But this does not need to apportion blame and guilt. 

These emotions are negative and do not assist you in moving forward. Rather, they hold you back, irrespective of whether they are directed inwardly at yourself or outwards at your ex partner or spouse. 

I advise; to be able to get over a broken relationship and move on, you should concentrate more on controlling your thoughts. These will keep your emotions in check leading to a calm mood and logical thinking.

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