Is It Really Possible? True Love at First Sight!

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o you believe in love at first sight? Are you searching for some substantiation that it is possible? Would you like to fall in love at first sight? Or are you wondering whether you should tone down your emotions? Read on to find out what we think.

Yes, true love at first sight is possible. There are so many beautiful stories out there that depict just this fascinating phenomenon, of how their eyes met and they fell madly in love and got married and had kids. You have certainly read this story in steamy romance novels and seen it in movies. It has happened to real people as well.

You see someone and you just know they are "The One" and you are going to marry them. I have heard many men tell this story.

One has to know the difference between love and infatuation, though. Infatuation does not feel real, it is what you feel sitting in the audience of a rock show, imagining you are going to marry James Bond. Not happening anytime soon.

One has also to know the difference between physical attraction and true love. Yes, true love comes with beautiful chemistry. But if the man in question merely resembles your favourite star or he has some features you think are great like super flat abs, and this is causing a flutter, it is most likely not love that is creating that increased pulse.

You have to be really careful with all of this. Say you see someone and think you have fallen in love with him at first sight. You really need to stop at that very moment before launching off into wild fantasies later that night, and find out whether he is available. If he isn't, stop dead in your tracks and find a hobby. Really, just distract yourself. If this is, indeed, true love, it will happen when everyone is truly free. Otherwise, all you get is a big huge mess. And many hurt people.

Knowing the difference between these emotions and situations can be the hedge of protection you need around you. A good test to apply is, when it is true love and meant to be, there is serendipity, an aligning of all elements. A few glitches here and there, but love wins out!

If true love at first sight is what you desire, then imagine and wish with all your heart: if you can imagine it, you can have it. 

Chinedu and Wife

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hinedu “Aki” Ikedieze and his beautiful wife, Nneoma Ikedieze

Who says it’s not real! They made it.

            Married 9^th of December 2010

Is He Loosing Interest? Watch Out For These Signs

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ndifference is the most obvious sign that the man who was once your knight and shining armour is losing interest in you but doesn't have the spine to call it quits. Instead of sitting you down and talking to you like an adult, he makes up a series of ridiculous 'exit strategies' in the hope that you'll be the one to break up with him.

If you feel he's losing interest, then he may probably, and your relationship may quickly head to a break-up. How do you know for sure? Here are some clues:

He snaps when you ask him about his day. If he gets irritated whenever you check up on him, take a hint. He has lost interest in your relationship and is looking for greener pastures, girl.

He keeps questioning the 'state' of your relationship. Men often hate to talk about relationships, let alone where it is headed. When he constantly asks if you're okay, perhaps he's the one who's not okay. This is his way of hinting that things are not going well between the two of you.

He'd rather hang out with his buddies. Your usual Friday date night has suddenly become his night out with his friends. If your routine dates have suddenly become group dates with his buddies, something's not right.

He has become inconsiderate. Commenting about how you gained weight (especially if he has never done that in the past) is a sign that he now finds other girls more attractive. Gone are the days when you were his only eye candy and no one was prettier than you in his world.

If he does not have the spine to admit that he is losing interest in you, then be the one to initiate 'the talk.' If the end result is a breakup, then so be it. It's better to end things early than prolong the agony. Use your efforts and give your love to a man who truly deserves it.

These Simple Tips Can Improve Your Marriage

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re you tired of being married but lonely and want to improve your marriage? If you aren't careful your marriage can slide quickly from so-so to over. Please don't think that I'm trying to scare you some folks getting married, end up divorced. So it's obviously to your advantage to fix your marriage now and avoid the painful divorce process.

So what are your top three marriage issues that you would like to see disappear? Is it the lack of communication, lack of trust, lack of intimacy, lack of finances, lack of time or lack of agreement on raising your children? I hope you didn't nod your head yes to all of these, although it wouldn't surprise me if you did.

Marriage was never meant to be this hard, right? Just a short while ago you couldn't stop talking and holding hands and kissing. Time and intimacy wasn't an issue because your relationship was the top priority. Leaving work early was a must and the weekends were dedicated to spending time together. So what happened?

Well, what most couples say is that as life unfolded and reality set in what seemed to be perfect started to slowly show its defects. There is always a question of whether one or both spouses changed and that becomes the recurring theme in arguments or heated conversations. It goes one or two ways, "you have changed" or "you need to change".

It is clear that marriage takes work. It's a pretty simple concept but one that many married individuals overlook. I would also say that many individuals think that they are working on their marriage and trying to improve it. The problem is that because of the fractured relationship there is little trust, communication and intimacy. It is hard to fix a marriage when the husband and wife can barely tolerate one another.

My goodness, you might have a hard time being in the same room. Have you ever thought, "What if my spouse disappeared" Come on be honest. I'm not talking about anything bad happening. Just a thought of, "I wonder how life would have been had we not married"? Well, it's a normal train of thought when you are frustrated, resentful and desire some improvement in your marriage. This kind of thinking becomes harmful because you can start to prepare yourself emotionally and mentally to be separated from your spouse.

Instead of envisioning separation why not replace those images and thoughts with more positive ones, i.e., your marriage being healed and improved? Get rid of the negative thinking and your attitude toward your spouse will be better. With a better attitude you will have more peace and then guess what? You will have more joy and an improved marriage.

2 Simple Tips To Improve Your Marriage

The first tip if you want to improve your marriage is that you must be willing to give of yourself unconditionally. I know what you are thinking and it's bordering on the negative side. Remember, positive thoughts will result in positive actions.

What I'm suggesting is that you make positive changes to improve your marriage and don't base them on conditions that your spouse must do something in return. If you can do this your motives will be pure, and in time, your spouse will appreciate that you are giving out of love and unselfishness.

The second tip that I would recommend is that you make your marriage improvement a top priority. What this means is that you spend more time working at your marriage than you do watching cable TV shows. If you are spending no time together now, how can you ever improve your marriage? It's not like a cold that comes and goes. It's like pneumonia, if left untreated it can make you miserable and might even kill you.

A good place to start is making a conscious effort to think about each day and consider the following; what do I have planned today to help my marriage get better? If you keep coming up with nothing then you aren't doing enough to fix your marriage. If you try hard enough your words and your actions can be used to help build up your marriage or tear apart your marriage. The choice is yours

Guide to Finding a True Love

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nyone who has ever lost a partner, gotten divorced, or ended a relationship can attest that love can be one of life's greatest blessings. Valentine's Day can bring the painful reminder of what is missing in one's love life. This reminder can be very stressful and lonely. With loneliness, comes the feeling of being inadequate.

What is the secret of finding true love in life? People usually put a strong focus toward attracting the right partner in life, and they ignore the internal problems that prevent a kinship from developing.

The search should start from inside your soul. If you feel inadequate, and unloving of yourself, then you are not generating positive energy around yourself. The Law of Attraction states that you attract energy similar to what we feel deep inside. If you do not love yourself then it is impossible to attract a partner who will truly love you. In order to find the love you are seeking, you need to develop higher self-esteem and self-love. In order to achieve self-worth consider the following:

1. Start making a list of things that you like about yourself. You may begin with physical attributes such as your eyes, your face, or your hair. Eventually, add your personal and mental qualities. Perhaps you are caring and considerate or intelligent and creative. Rather than finding faults about yourself, focus on finding strengths. It won't take long before you see things about yourself that you love.

2. Bring happiness and joy in your life. This step is exceptionally important. If you worry too much, or feel heavily burdened, it is time to give yourself a break and bring joy back into your life. Find someone who can spend some happy moments with you. Your companion doesn't have to be your life partner. He or she can be a friend, co-worker, neighbour, or a family member. Have a good time when you are alone, too. The more you become truly happy inside, the opportunity to attract someone who will truly admire you becomes much more likely. Remember that happiness attracts happiness.

3. While practicing to become happy, use meditation as an aide. Meditation will assist in finding your inner state of grace. As you silence your busy mind, and listen to your own heartbeat, you become aware of your calm center. In this center you will find true love, joy, and peace.

Relationship Mistakes

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t is heart breaking when people are ending up their relationship and this applies to lovers or even couples who have been together for a long time. It may seem unbelievable for some people but these relationships end for a reason.

The mistakes in a relationship can be a teaching experience because we learn from it. Everyone is capable of making mistakes because we are not perfect creatures. However, making mistakes repeatedly in a relationship is a different thing. One must know when to stop doing the mistakes because it will only create a negative effect in your relationship's future.

Here are some common mistakes in a relationship and check out my advice on how to avoid it.

- Cheating. This is by far the most unpleasant and deadly mistake that ruin a relationship. Not only will your partner think that you betrayed them but you will also completely lose their respect and trust. There is no way to build or rebuild a relationship when there is no trust. As couples you need to spend more time with each other and less time on people who are outside of your marriage.

- Jealousy. People with low self esteem are mostly the ones who are bound to have this problem because they act insecure, blame it on self and they think they are not good enough. Instead of feeling jealous and insecure, learn to be different from others by working your skills and talents and be extraordinary. Think of your achievements and accomplishments and be proud of it. Don't focus on your flaws but instead of the things that you posses. Life is too short to care for unimportant people in your life. Boost your ego by being happy about yourself to avoid committing this mistake in a relationship.

- Obsessing over your ex. If you think you have not yet moved on from your past relationship then you have to forget about your ex., don’t dwell on your past. You should not treat your current relationship as a proof to your ex that you have moved on or you are no longer hurt. Getting into a new relationship doesn't mean that you will be able to forget the previous one. Do not be unfair to your current partner and be true to yourself. If you think that you haven't moved on yet, honour and embrace the pain. Time will come when you will be over it.

- Lack of good communication. Communication is a must for a long term relationship. Everyone has different interests and values. Talk to each other regularly. It may be about your ideas, desires and fears or simply how you spent your day. Communication is also very essential when there is an argument. This will eliminate the silent treatment situation that usually happens when your partner is upset or when you make mistakes. In this generation, we are lucky enough to communicate conveniently to our partner. We can reach them by using Facebook, Skype, Blackberry Messaging, Yahoo Messenger and many more.

- Job. There are times in our lives where our career becomes our top priority and usually the relationship is pushed to the side. Hopefully your significant other will be very understanding and supportive of your career but unfortunately when this happens, it will only result to cancelling dates, dinners or quality time together. Discuss well with your partner when you feel that your career demands so much of your time and compromise on how you could spend some quality time together.

- No Intimacy. If you are in a relationship with someone who you do not have sex, chances are, you are not in a happy relationship. A good relationship is not just about sex but intimacy as well. It is a very important factor that will also strengthen your relationship and trust with each other. You should also understand that your partner has needs and if you cannot provide it, your partner is bound to find it elsewhere. Plan some sexy date ideas for your sweetheart and cherish each intimate and romantic moment with her.

When you are in a relationship, you should not take your partner for granted. Learn to appreciate the things they do for you and when you commit these common mistakes in a relationship, learn to say "I'm sorry" and do not forget to say "Thank You". Learn from it and let it guide you in becoming a great partner.