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Saturday, June 2, 2012

Unconditional Love

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Unconditional love is usually based on: I love you for who you are.
It is about each person enhancing the life of the other.

Unconditional love is about loving someone for who they are because that person enhances your life, when you are with them things are better than they were before. In unconditional love, though you have the ability to survive and thrive alone, but you choose to be together because you work well together, you have fun together, you advance more rapidly together.

If you have Unconditional love then Monogamy is a pleasure
Yes, I know we would all like to find that perfect relationship where we are fully able to rely upon another for life, where we have perfect communication, a satisfying and regular sex life, and we just 'know' that everything is great forever...

But the reality of life is not that way -
When life gets in the way, the communication sometimes breaks down, the sex life sometimes dwindles or dies, the financials sometimes create issues, the kids sometimes take up too much time, the small things sometimes over take the important things and we lose our way...

And this is where Unconditional love comes into play

Much of what I talk about might make sense on the surface but makes no headway in your mind because it goes against the grain of everything you have been taught.

Much of what I encourage could enlighten your life exponentially if you pay close attention.

Unconditional love - try it.

Friday, June 1, 2012

You Cannot Heal From a Failed Relationship Unless You Become Aware

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If you have a number of failed relationships behind you, it is very likely that you feel wounded, depressed, despaired and lonely. In order to become empowered to develop a healthy and satisfying relationship you first need to heal these wounds. This is possible when you become aware of what it is that makes you fail in the first place.

If you are single and on the dating scene for many years, gotten hurt time and again, you need to heal your wounds before finding and developing a satisfying new relationship. If, on the other hand, you have had a long-term relationship and decided to separate at this point in your life and you wish to begin a new relationship, you might not know how to heal the separation and feel truly "available" for a new intimacy.

The importance of Self-Awareness
Whichever your personal situation is, you might wonder what it will take for you to heal, become empowered and able to develop and maintain a successful intimacy.

This is where Self-Awareness becomes vital and can play a crucial role in your ability to heal and move forward: It is very likely that you - like many others - have failed in your relationships for a number of reasons. Yet, one reason which often plays an enormous part in failed relationships and nonetheless doesn't receive its due attention is the following:

You might not know yourself well enough: you might not be aware of a host of factors, such as needs, fears, unrealistic expectations, messages you internalized at young age from the home and the environment in which you grew up, your belief-system and perception of reality, which exert power over you and control your attitudes and behaviours. Any one of these factors - or a combination of some - might hinder you from developing and maintaining a successful intimacy.

What does becoming aware mean?
Becoming aware means:
* Getting to know and understand yourself better;
* Realizing traits, feelings, attitudes and behaviours you denied and rejected until now, refusing to acknowledge and accept them as part of you;
* It means becoming conscious of the factors which exert power over you and drive you to sabotage your relationship.

As long as you are not aware of the power and damage these factors bring upon you, you will continue walking around wounded, feeling incessantly frustrated, disappointed, disillusioned, angry, desperate and unhappy, without knowing what you should do in order to heal yourself and move forward towards developing a satisfying and healthy relationship.

Awareness and healing are two complementary processes
Awareness and healing are two complementary processes. Through them you get up the courage to be true to yourself; authentic and genuine; connected to your will; acknowledge and accept traits and behaviours you might have denied and rejected within you.

The more you become aware and the more you heal, the more you will strive to increase your awareness and to heal yourself even further. This complementary relationship between awareness and healing will enable you to move forward to developing a successful and healthy intimacy.

Thursday, May 31, 2012

How to Make Your Love Bond Strong

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A good relationship makes life worth living. They are similar to investments where returns depend on how much effort you put in. If you are in a relationship and happy, you must make some effort to keep it the way it is.

People change and hence when the differences are not understood, the relationship can hit a few road blocks. It is not surprising to see a few stumbling blocks, but the actual challenge is to keep the relationship going steady in spite of the hurdles. How exactly should you maintain a love relationship and avoid frequent arguments and fights? Let us find out how to keep the love bond strong.

1) Be Open and Frank
Frank and open communication is the key to any healthy relationship. There can be occasions where you have to reveal some bitter truth to your partner and you might have inhibitions and doubts in doing so. Remember that hiding things might make your partner drift apart from you when they get to know about it later on from a different source. Though you might feel a little uncomfortable initially, things would fall in to place as days go by. Moreover, in most cases your relationship is susceptible to get better when you speak out the truth.

2) Forgive and Forget
When there is a little tiff between you and your partner due to any reason, try to ease your mind and think straight of why this problem might have occurred. When your partner comes forth and confesses their mistakes, be wise and forgive them instantly. Resolve matters with respect and love. Don't abuse or get violent; always be in control. After they calm down, you can explain them the actual impact of their mistake and tell them to be careful the next time. This will give a sense of security to your partner and they will know from then that you are there to support irrespective of the situation. Never bring out old matters, forgiving and forgetting is the best policy. This will lead you to the path of a strong relationship.

3) Little Things Make a Huge Difference
There must be a spark in your relationship that would help to keep it strong. It is normal to have occasional hiccups in the relationship, but to overcome them prudently is very important. Always do those little things to keep the spark in your relationship alive. Occasionally, surprise your partner with small gifts to express your love. Give them a hug and a peck on the cheek once they are back from work. Hugs and kisses are very important to strengthen bonding and attachment. Go for romantic dinners and long drives whenever you get a chance. Do fun things together like swimming, running, watching movies, etc. When your partner is tensed about work or anything else, don't get irritated rather be patient and hear them out.

Relationship is the most important aspect of one's life. Keep in mind these 3 golden rules and there won't be any sad moment in your relationship.

Wednesday, May 30, 2012

How to Capture a Man's Heart

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Is there anything more exhilarating than the feeling of knowing you've captured the heart of a man you are totally into and then having him fall in love with you?

However, if you're in a position where you know a man that you are drawn to and yet at a complete loss at how to get him to respond, then the feeling becomes more like despair and agony.

Is that what you are feeling now? It is so hard when you see a guy you are attracted to so strongly who doesn't notice you or even worse, acts as if you don't exist.

Every time he passes by or if you get the exciting opportunity to interact with him, there is such a powerful internal yearning to want to get to know him more importantly...have him WANT to get to know you.
What would you say if I told you that you could make that happen? Are you interested?

I thought so.

This is the way to capture a man's interest and from there, win his heart.
First, you'll want to do a personal assessment. Why? Because everything that is involved with getting his attention starts from within you and how you carry yourself.

The things you'll want to check yourself on are how you treat yourself and how you treat others. For example, do you take care of yourself physically, mentally, and emotionally?

A sign that you love yourself gets revealed in your physical appearance. Are you clean? Are your clothes clean, ironed, and of good fashion? Is your hair styled? Are you healthy and fit? These are the things that will first draw his eye upon you.

How about your mental and emotional state? Are you in a calm, relaxed, peaceful state of mind? The way you react to situations and people around you will reveal those qualities.

In a look at how you treat others, ask yourself if you treat them with the same kind of respect you treat yourself? Are you kind, thoughtful, compassionate, and encouraging toward them? These are the qualities that will grab his attention.

Now let's look at some other things that will get him to notice you and get him to want to know you better.

What is your level of self-confidence? Do you believe you are worthy of his time and attention? You really should because you are. But don't let ego take over with this aspect of your character, because while self-confidence is extremely attractive, a big ego will have him continue to pretend you don't exist.

Other alluring features that will capture his interest are a great sense of humour, honesty, intelligence, etc. Display these attributes and you're sure to have him not only notice you, but willingly vie for some of your time and attention.

Once you have his focus then win his heart by doing the things that he secretly longs for in a mate. These are things such as desiring to get to know the real him, helping him to find his purpose in life and achieving that mission. He also desires a woman who won't try to control or manipulate him.

Tuesday, May 29, 2012

Tips that Can Help Premature Ejaculation Naturally

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Tip #1 Strengthening Your PC Muscles
The PC muscles are the most important muscles when it comes to ejaculation because they literally determine the whole ejaculatory process. Learning how to gain control of these muscles is therefore the number one tip on how to end your premature ejaculation.

Just like any other muscles in the body, the PC muscles are strengthened through exercises. This will require patience and dedication on your side and therefore you should not expect instant results. The dedication and patience will however pay off once you have attained stronger muscles because once you have stronger PC muscles, you will be able to only ejaculate by command. You will have gotten rid of premature ejaculation permanently.

Tip #2 Breathe
As much as taking deep breathes may sound as cheesy advice, it actually works. Taking deep breathes actually helps in relation, something which is important in helping you get control of your body. Do not be in rush when having sex, this will only increase the chances of you ejaculating prematurely and her being dissatisfied after the session.

Tip #3 Talk About It
Speaking about the problem with your partner will help in ensuring that you are less nervous and worried about "blowing it up". Nervousness has been found to be one of the leading causes of premature ejaculation and thus being able to decrease it is a sure way of getting over your condition. Your partner may also be cooperative to your suggestions in the bedroom when she understands your problem, rather than when she has been left in the dark.

Tip #4 Vary Sexual Positions
Premature ejaculation is mainly influenced by the level of stimulation and the pressure that you put on your PC muscles. Different sexual positions will vary the level of stimulation and the amount of pressure put on your PC muscles. It is therefore important to try different positions when having sexual intercourse with your partner so as to find what works for you.

Tip #5 Concentrate on Foreplay
Foreplay is not only good for increasing the chances of the girl experiencing an orgasm, it is also essential in helping you last longer in bed. This is so because, the more the foreplay, the more the girl will get aroused. This increased arousal increases the lubrication in her vagina. It also makes her vagina to expand. These two factors will help in decreasing the amount of friction on the head of your penis and thus decreasing the likelihood of an early ejaculation.

Tip #6 Vary the Rate of your Thrust
This is usually referred as the start and stop technique. All that you have to do is to stop penetration when the urge to ejaculate comes and after it passes, you then resume thrusting. To avoid making it look awkward to your partner, you may concentrate on arousing her through touch her breasts or stimulating her clitoris with your fingers when you stop thrusting.

Monday, May 28, 2012

Peter Osaze Odemwingie is Now Married

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Osaze Odemwingie married Sarah Michael, his 22yr old girl friend on May 26 2012 in the UK.

Have You Lost the Spark of Your Marriage? Get it back!

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Lots of excitement surrounds the engagement, wedding, and honeymoon, but as the weeks, months, and years roll one into the other, that excitement can die. That is because routine often replaces the fun, connection, and excitement as time wears on.
But this does not have to be the case.
Many marriages survive because the spouses make an effort to keep the relationship fresh and important.
Here are seven tips for getting the spark back if you've lost yours:
1. Decide that the marriage is important. You and your spouse must decide what type of priority your marriage is in your day-to-day lives. If you do not make the marriage a priority, then everything else will get in the way.
2. Remember why you two got married. If you feel the day-to-day routine is crowding out your love, affection, and warm feelings for your spouse, then take some time to remember why you two got married in the first place. Then focus on building a life around that desire and interest.
3. Find something special just for the two of you. If you two never spend time alone or never engage in activities just for you, then you won't build intimacy. Intimacy and connection are both important to a healthy marriage. So find a special activity that you two enjoy and can do. And don't make it a one-off. Schedule time to engage in that activity regularly.
4. Share something personal. Think of something personal to share with your spouse. It does not have to be a big thing, but it does have to be something important to you. Take some time discussing your day, your work, your goals, etc. Be sure to listen to what your spouse is telling you. Sharing small things with each other helps to connect you.
5. Plan something special. Everyone likes to feel catered for or taken care of. Do that for your spouse. Plan a special meal, activity, event, outing, etc., designed to make your spouse feel special.
6. Talk on a regular basis. For many couples, the day-to-day demands of life are the only things they talk about. And those aren't really discussions. They are just times to check things off a list or to pass along information.  Make a point to spend at least 10 minutes each day truly talking. (See point No. 4).
7. Connect on values. Discuss your spiritual beliefs and values. Use your spiritual principles to guide your choices.
You can have a fresh and interesting marriage. Use these seven tips for getting the spark back in your relationship.

Sunday, May 27, 2012

You Can Overcome an Abusive Relationship! Find Out!

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If you've got a history of being in abusive relationships, you may worry that you're destined to have pain for the rest of your life in one bad relationship after another. However, let me assure you that you can indeed change the results you are getting so that you avoid entering into another relationship that is unhealthy.

But you are going to have to start thinking differently and making different choices. Here are five powerful techniques to get you started on the right path:
1. Every day, several times throughout the day, repeat an affirmation that is simple to remember and positive in its message. An example is, "I commit to being in healthy relationship” Write it on slips of paper that you post wherever you will see the affirmation frequently, such as on your fridge, next to the bathroom sink, on your desk at work, in your wallet. If privacy is an issue for you, keep it in your pocket, but be sure to read it often. Positive affirmations, if used consistently and persistently, will retrain your thinking and empower you to attract the right person

2. Meditate every day for 15 minutes. If you've never tried meditation, you may have the image of someone sitting in a painful-looking position, eyes closed and humming a chant. Meditation is actually a much simpler process that anyone, even a child, can learn and master. It simply means getting quiet within you. You can even do this at your desk for 5-minute refresher breaks, but 15 minutes seems to be the optimum amount of time to see the best benefits from meditation. While meditating, thoughts will pop up. They may be random such as a reminder that you need to buy provisions at the super market or worries about problems you feel are overwhelming. No matter the nature of the thought, dismiss it gently and keep your focus on breathing calmly. This quiet time of meditation allows your mind freedom to stretch into the realm of solutions instead of being stuck in fretting over the relationships that have brought you pain and the fear that you will never find love. Breathe slowly, deeply, calmly. It usually helps to close your eyes softly to reduce distractions.

3. Cultivate healthy friendships. If the abusive relationship kept you isolated, which is frequently the case, you may feel there is an absence of friends you can trust. So the challenge is to find those new friends to have a mutually supportive relationship with. Places you can look for friends include your work place, your place of worship if you have that in your life, and meet up groups. You can also check online to meet friends with common interest, cross check their reality and mingle in real life (Don’t be afraid to meet someone you come across online. Some may be fake and bad, no doubt. There are good ones too; you may also meet a wonderful person! Just conduct a reality check and connect). You will see there are many categories of groups, and there's bound to be one or more that you are interested in such as hobbyists, sports enthusiasts etc. Don't just sit at home and complain you have no friends. They are out there right now, wishing they had a friend just like you. Attract them to you by being the kind of friend you want them to be to you. Practice now being a loving and kind person. You can express that even with strangers you meet, such as smiling at the next person in line at the ATM, or saying a few friendly words to the mall cashier. Allow love to flow through you. It's safe now. I know it didn't feel safe to express love in the abusive relationship, because being vulnerable always brought more pain, but you need to heal from that and allow love to do that healing as it flows from the Universal Spirit through you and out to others in your life.

4. Drop your hyper vigilance. What does it mean to be hyper vigilant? You might not have even known it's got a name, but it's what "victims" in an abusive relationship start doing as they stay longer and longer with the abuser and try to cope. It means being on guard constantly, watching every move he makes, and weighing every word he says, waiting for the next outburst and trying desperately to head it off. It also means that you take offense in a knee-jerk reaction to even harmless comments. If you hold on to your old hyper vigilant reactionary mode, when you're talking to a potential new date or new friend, you'll be watching them like a hawk and ready to pounce on the tiniest joke as being evidence of abuse. Learn more about healing from your abusive past so that you can indeed relegate it to the past and not keep the wounds open and oozing. Ugly image, isn't it? And yet that pain is what so many people stay stuck in. Even after the abusive relationship has ended, they continue thinking and talking about all the pain they experienced, keeping it alive in the present as if it's still happening. I urge you to allow your old hyper vigilant reactions to die along with the dead relationship.

5. Write a vision statement, describing the perfect relationship you would like to attract into your life. Write it in the present tense as if it is already true in your life and you are so happy and grateful that this wonderful person loves you just as you love them, and your happy life together is simply fabulous in every way. Read the vision statement at least once a day. If possible, record it and listen to your own voice telling this dream as if it is already real. Imagine how you will feel, and involve all your senses in this vision of the love relationship you want to experience. You can do this by visualizing that, for example, you are at a fruit market selecting a melon together and then you go home and cut into it- smell it, taste it, feed bites of it to each other, laugh as the melon juice drips down your chin, lean in and kiss. Did you get a movie image in your head from that description? Could you see yourself laughing and eating a juicy watermelon or apple with a wonderful love mate? Get very specific about the kind of person you want to attract into your life. By the way, be sure to avoid saying the things you "don't" want him or her to be like. For instance avoid phrases in your vision statement such as, "My soul mate never yells at me or makes me feel inferior." Instead, since that painful experience is one you really want to avoid recreating in your new relationship, flip that statement to its positive side and include statements in your vision like, "My soul mate is loving, kind, caring and affectionate and we enjoy quality time together."

Now that you have better idea of how to avoid an abusive relationship, I hope you will dismiss any worries that you will inadvertently land in, again. The truth is, the way the universal Law of Attraction works, if you focus your attention on attracting a healthy, loving relationship into your life, you cannot attract the abusive kind ever again. Abusive relationship operates on a lower frequency, and if you follow the tips above, you will be living on a higher frequency in this world of ours, a spiritual and emotional frequency where love resides. And that's a promise.